He's Not Dumping You Because...
January 7, 2009
From Judy McGuire of The Frisky (www.thefrisky.com):
Writing
about dating is my full-time job, so, naturally, I hear a lot of pretty
deranged tales of love gone wrong.
But last week I received a letter
from a woman who was convinced that men wouldn't go out with her
because she was just too ... beautiful.She fully believed her
breathtaking attractiveness was anything but a man-magnet -- as one
might expect. Instead, she said, her beauty acted as a Romeo-repellant,
causing suitors to run screaming from her. Obviously, I explained the
situation to her (perhaps it wasn't her gorgeous outsides, but her
narcissistic insides that were doing the damage), but it did get me to
thinking about all the other ridiculous reasons that women -- myself
included -- come up with when they get dumped.
Along with being too beautiful, here are a few other qualities I guarantee nobody will ever break your heart over:Too smart:
I once had a friend who was convinced she couldn't keep a boyfriend
because she was too smart for the male population. She was positive her
staggering intellect was turning them off. Uh, no. What drove the men
away (and most of her female friends, as well) was the fact that she
was mean. We're talking stupendously cruel. Her definition of smart
translated into cutting people down until they felt like the smallest
person on earth. Not exactly a turn-on, no matter how cleverly it's
worded.
Too nice: Generally, I hear this one
more from men, but women are guilty of it, too. Here, the problem is
semantics. "Nice" is a desirable quality. Whereas "doormat,"
"pantywaist," and "milquetoast" are not. Far too many people mistake
the latter for the former, and there's a world of difference when it
comes to dating. So, no, you're not getting dumped because you're too
nice; you're getting the heave-ho because you're spineless.
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