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7 Reasons Women Stay in Bad Relationships
February 5, 2009

From Christian author John Shore:

Though I may not write them in exactly this order, those seven reasons will be:

1. Having to Create a New Self Image. (Nurturing, forgiving, healing, self-sacrificing martyr: OUT. Self-Preserving, selfish [bad word that rhymes with "itch']: IN. Not an identity switch a lot of women are comfortable making.)

2. Fear of the Unknown. (Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t, and all that.)

3. Too Embarrassing. (Ah, the allures of public failure.)

4. Playing Your Family’s Old Tapes. (So often succeeding in life means psychologically breaking with—betraying, really—one’s family. Tough stuff.)

5. He’s Got YOU On Him. (Every time you look at him, you see you. And you love you!)

6. Loving the Lovable in Him. (Everybody’s got an angel in them; you keep loving the one in him. It’s real; it’s there; it’s not helping.)

7. How Could He Be So Different From You? (You simply can’t fathom that he really is exactly the person he keeps proving himself to be.)


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