What can you do if you've lost your virginity?

Can it be re-gained by asking God for forgiveness, vowing sexual purity until marriage, having surgery to restore your body physically to a virgin state, or by being spiritually renewed?

No, your virginity cannot be re-gained once it is lost, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't commit to abstain from sexual activity until marriage or ask God to forgive you.

The Bible says that when we are born again, we are new creations, our old selves are dead and gone, and we have new life given to us by the Holy Spirit of God (2 Corinthians 5:17). This means that God chooses to no longer remember our past transgressions (Jeremiah 31:34), including losing virginity before marriage. (source)

There is absolutely no doubt that God will forgive sex before marriage. God’s love for a person is not diminished because of the mistakes that person has made. (source)


A Christian who has made the mistake of sex before marriage should: (source)

1. Make a firm commitment to save yourself for marriage from now on, and believe you can do it. (Because you can!)


2. Get away from people, places, things and situations that weaken your self-control. Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is avoid people who tempt us.


3. Avoid intense hugging, passionate kissing and anything else that leads to lustful thoughts and behavior. Anything beyond a brief, simple kiss can quickly become dangerous.


4. Find non-physical ways to show your love and appreciation.


5. Remember that anyone can start over. Including you! When you focus on commitment and self-discipline, you can control your impulses.