March 10, 2010
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What's Going On: Love, Sex and Relationships
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How To Start Over If You've Lost Your Virginity February 26, 2009 What can you do if you've lost your virginity? Can it be re-gained by asking God for forgiveness, vowing sexual purity until marriage, having surgery to restore your body physically to a virgin state, or by being spiritually renewed? No, your virginity cannot be re-gained once it is lost, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't commit to abstain from sexual activity until marriage or ask God to forgive you. The Bible says that when we are born again, we are new creations, our old selves are dead and gone, and we have new life given to us by the Holy Spirit of God ( 2 Corinthians 5:17). This means that God chooses to no longer remember our past transgressions ( Jeremiah 31:34), including losing virginity before marriage. ( source)
There is absolutely no doubt that God will forgive sex before marriage. God’s love for a person is not diminished because of the mistakes that person has made. ( source) So, what should you do?
A Christian who has made the mistake of sex before marriage should : ( source) - Make a firm commitment to save yourself for marriage from now on, and believe you can do it. (Because you can!)
- Get away from people, places, things and situations that weaken your self-control. Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is avoid people who tempt us.
- Avoid intense hugging, passionate kissing and anything else that leads to lustful thoughts and behavior. Anything beyond a brief, simple kiss can quickly become dangerous.
- Find non-physical ways to show your love and appreciation.
- Remember that anyone can start over. Including you! When you focus on commitment and self-discipline, you can control your impulses.
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forgiving: 1. inclined or able to forgive. 2. Providing a margin for error or shortcomings.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Father forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)
It wasn’t right. Your friend shared something you told her in confidence. Your husband wasn’t completely honest with you about your finances. Your coworker claimed one of your great ideas as her own.
You’re still holding a grudge. And who could blame you? It wasn’t right.
But . . .
We serve a God who calls us to forgive.
At some point in any relationship, regardless of the type (friends, family, dating, etc), there will be an argument (or disagreement, if you'd prefer) about something.
Most of the time, getting through these disagreements will be perfectly simple - e.g. we'll go where you want to go now, i really don't care that much.
But sometimes, the resolution is so very far from simple. Maybe you're deciding how many kids you want to have, or how to handle a loved one's funeral, or some other issue that's really serious and personal to both people involved, so no one wants to "let the other person win".
What do we do in these situations? There was a young woman who fully believed her breathtaking attractiveness was anything but a man-magnet -- as one might expect. Instead, she said, her beauty acted as a Romeo-repellant, causing suitors to run screaming from her. Obviously, I explained the situation to her (perhaps it wasn't her gorgeous outsides, but her narcissistic insides that were doing the damage), but it did get me to thinking about all the other ridiculous reasons that women -- myself included -- come up with when they get dumped.
Along with being too beautiful, here are a few other qualities I guarantee nobody will ever break your heart over.
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